“Wishes may bring problems such that you regret them. Better that, though, than to never get them.” This statement is very true. My Aunt Cathy has been struggling with cancer for seven years now. And during these last two years it has gotten worse. This past week she laid in her hospital bed in her room surrounded by family as she waited to die. She was a fighter and the nurses kept saying, " it will be tonight." Every night we stayed by her side awake till 4 am. It might not have seemed like a smart thing to do, but that's our family. A little background on my family: we all basically live within a mile of each other. My aunt and I live only up the hill ( Our family actually bought her old house. ) We are very close and always in each others business whether we should be or not. My aunt was almost like another mom sometimes, that's the reason i came to Saint George; it was for her. It wasn't until a full week of cousin bonding and mourning passed that she decide we were ready for her to let go. It came unexpectedly, i was in the kitchen playing games with the family. We all thought she wasn't going to die that night because she always held on for so long. Plus, all week we have been hearing that tonight will be the night. We even were WISHING previously that it would be the night. I tell you this story because for so long we hoped, prayed and WISHED that she would make it through the cancer and treatments. She did! But then every time the cancer came back worse then it was before. That was not how the family wanted our WISHES to come true. It eventually overtook her whole body causing her immense pain and for her to end up in a coma. Leading up to Sunday night, we WISHED again. This time for a completely different WISH telling her " it was okay for her to go, and that we loved her" . Now that she is gone, there is so many unanswered questions and we only WISH we had more time. Wasn't it all last week that we wasted WISHING for her to pass through her tortured state? WISHES can be confusing. They often don't get us what we want.During this wishing well of wishes we realized we couldn't have both. Only ONE WISH could come true in that moment and that should be the WISH that was best for her. Don't get me wrong, i still WISH she could be here and she is just in a different way. Wishes also come in ways best suited for you, not necessarily in the way YOU WISHED them. In my case, my wish got me what needed to happen. I WISHED for more time during the beginning, Less time in the end, and back to WISHING for more time after it was over. I often wonder if wishes leave you were you started? Along what i call my wishing journey i learned life lessons, i grew up a bit. Maybe, you could say WISHES are three dimensional. The WISHES the characters made in the play Into The Woods brought them temporary happiness. I say temporary happiness because they ended back up in the woods, WISHING for more. Once you get a WISH fulfilled you're never truly satisfied. It's better then not getting them. Without the wishing journey of my aunt i would have never grown. Through out the play you could see the characters growing and failing based on their wishes. The baker started out on his wish search greedy, then toward the end got a softer heart as he tried a new wish and to get what he wanted. Without the wish of the magic bean stalk jack would have never been connected to all those people or had the journey he received. The bakers wife wished for the child that she so longed for. I don't think she realized the responsibility that came with that wish. When she received the child she gave it to others to take care of then wished for a young self again. I think her rondevu with the prince was symbolic to wanting freedom back and doing all those things she WISHED and didn't get to do before she was a mom. In life we may wish for things to soon, that would have came free to us if we would have just waited for a later time in life. We saw many examples of this in Into the Woods. Our wishing doesn't need to take place in the " woods" , but can be waited for patiently outside of them. I believe all our wishes will come true as we do the things along the path to make them come true.
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