The setting was very real and in my mind i was able to make a good comparison. As the cancer patient was lying there in bed so alone and sick, i took note to the way they decided to visually portray her. She was bald- from the aspect alone you could tell she had been through treatment after treatment. I noticed her eye brows and eye lashes still on- if you were a real cancer patient this would be gone. I watched my aunt loose everything. The only thing that kept her character from looking exactly like my aunt, was the eyebrows/ eyelashes. Even her lips were chapped-this showed lack of nutrition and water. You could tell how close she really was getting. The fact that she was laying in a hospital bed, was sign enough. I'm glad after seeing this my aunt was able to die in her home, surrounded by loved ones.
I think the number one fear humans have about dying is this: That they will die alone and empty. Empty meaning not good enough to return to heaven or that higher being. It helps lots of people to help you realize the importance and difference a person has made in someones life. She didn't seem to have many flowers from visitors, so maybe she was doubting her role she had on this Earth. Would you want your final hours spent doubting yourself? NO.
Another part i can relate to is when her friend ( that's what i'm assuming-but the grandma there to visit her grandson) read her the bunny story. When my aunt was at that stage of unconscious ( almost unresponsive verbally) I read her The Forget Me Nots by Dieter F Uchdorf. I think when you die you digregress back to the stage of how you came into this Earth. Obviously not physically digress, but mentally. That is why she enjoyed the book being read to her so much. She could think back to her childhood years. Normally, people's childhood years are full of PURE INNOCENCE. I didn't watch the whole movie, so i don't know; but maybe this lady made some bad choices in her life before she got cancer. So going back to her innocent childhood years, relaxed her so she could die happy.
In John Donne poem, i found it witty but complex. Maybe the play/ show was called Wit because he identified with the parts of death no one wanted to. He brought out the good and the ugly. I took apart each line to try to associate better with the poem. Here is what i found:
Death, be not proud, though some have called thee
Death isn't something were always ready to embraced. But it is not our choice when we get called home. You can believe in the fates who cut your life line( string) or god calling you home. It still won't help you all the way cope with being brought home. The family is what has it the hardest, because they are here living life without you.
Die not, poor Death, nor yet canst thou kill me
Death can physically kill you. There is a few thing death will never do to you:
1. Death will not kill your spirit
2. Death doesn't kill the memory people who love you have
3. What you did on Earth is still significant after you die, if not more so.
4.You can choose how you want to handle death and so can the others around you.
*On a personal note, when my aunt died i was very sad. Her life ended, but ours still went on. Just because she had stopped breathing, we hadn't. I was still faced with many big personal choices. It was actually during her death when i decided to face my fears, because she had faced hers. I choose what school i was transferring too, to get my bachelors I did something outside of my comfort zone. I didn't want to have any regrets. After seeing her die, i realized life really is precious. I have kept going with life, and maybe i coped the whole weeks up to her death. But i haven't fully came to terms yet i don't think.
The funny thing about death:
The funny thing about death is, it can take time to hit you. Death is a natural occurance. Each day we wake up breathing we are that much closer to taking our last breath. That much closer to dying. It is happening to all of us. We may not have a terrible disease or cancer to make it stick out more. Death is happening, though. It often makes me wonder, what am i doing with my life? Am i wasting time that others don't have by being on social networking sites. There is so much i could do and accomplish in a few minutes. We shouldn't take that notion for granted, because for every one of us, i bet there is one person wishing they had the will power to do what they could for their last few precious moments on Earth. The funny thing about death is that. " Thou art slave to fate, chance, kings, and desperate men,.."
"One short sleep past, we wake eternally
And death shall be no more; Death, thou shalt die. "
I like the phrasing in these sentences from the online poem reading. I think it shows the order that death goes in. It also has a point, once we are dead, we can't die again. It only takes a second to die from Earth. but then we have an eternity to wake and be alive again. Through that eternity, we can complete anything we didn't complete here on earth. Eternity happens when life is finished. Once you move on to your next journey, called eternity--you can thwart off death. Death has no bounds when it comes to an eternal circle of life.
Death is a concept that is feared by many, embraced by all, and can only take you somewhere better. Once you die, you have eternity. Never forget that your eternity will be your heaven. And from a popular song by Spill Canvas called The Tide " Heavens not a place you go when you die, its that moment in life when you actually feel alive. So live for each moment now.."
P.S. and medicine can only fix you to the point you let it. A majority of medicine is in the mind. It is all will power, as soon as your mind gives in and your will goes away, i'm sad to say- so do you. So do anything you can on this earth and live with no regrets. YOLO. ( You only live once)
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